Skip to main content

Choose


Lessons I learned this week.

When you are looking to get your feelings hurt, you will get your feelings hurt.
When you are looking to be offended, you will be offended.

The universe is not mysterious. What we look for we will find!

Twice this week I found myself in the position where two very distinct roads appeared in front of me. One was a road that was full of offense and one was a road without.

The first happened at Back to School night.

Obviously with any new job there comes a certain level of anticipation, anxiety, and stress. Meeting the parents of all my students was going to be a stressful night. I know that a lot of what a parent thinks about the teacher is based on those first few moments of back to school night. I was stressed, but at the same time excited. I’ve worked really hard getting ready for this night so sink or swim it was go time.

Only go time started and none of my parents were showing up. I saw the other classrooms begin to fill with parents and children but mine remained empty. As I watched parents and children enter the other rooms my mind began to race down the offense road. No one likes me, they all want different teachers for their kids, they are in the office right this second trying to transfer their children out of my class, and they all hate me.

My mind was running and my eyes were filling up with tears and suddenly I heard a voice say, “STOP!” My thoughts stopped and I looked at the clock, it was two minutes pass the start time. I was getting worked up and looking for reasons to fail. I had given myself less than a minute to succeed. When I didn’t have total success I was determined to believe the worse.

I had one more situation occur where someone called me on the carpet about something I had done.

First, they were right I did it!

Second, they totally deserved it!!!

As they were telling me what I was doing my mind was thinking, yup and you did this, and this, and this, and this, and this. 

Again I heard that voice, “STOP!”

I looked at the person I was talking to and realized it didn’t matter what they had done. It was what I had done and they were right, I had done what they were saying.

Although, I felt my reasons were legit they were hurt and offended. I too had the option to be hurt and offended. However, I knew that it was a choice and I decided to accept responsibility for what I had done. I also realized that if I had taken responsibility sooner I may have avoided all the and this, and this, and this, and this.

Like I said the universe is not as mysterious as we would all like to think. We put ourselves out there everyday. We give off feelings of love, acceptance, happiness, and faith or we choose the opposite. Whatever we choose it comes back to us.


Signature
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

At my Age

I saw this quote the other day and had to smile. It has been interesting finishing school at my age. I have had this feeling more than once that I am a little old, and finishing school is something I should have done a long time ago. Usually I remind myself that we all have our own paths to take in life. My path had me marry at 19 and become the mother of four beautiful rug rats by 27. Marriage and children defined me more than anything. I became more aware of my talents and abilities. I really didn't know who I was before I became a wife and mother. Waiting until now to finish my degree gave me time to figure out who I am. Well, at least to have a better idea of who I am. I love being in a classroom, I love learning, and I love helping others learn. My inner nerd does little happy dances every time I learn something new. Each person on this planet has their own God given talents. We have a responsibility to find our talents and to make the world a better place. How old you are wh...
Post a Comment
Read more

Hip Hip Hurray, Tomorrow is PIE Day

Well in a little less then 24 hours I am going to have to reset this counter.  I can hardly believe that it says 30 days.  I have to tell you I never thought I would make it this many days I really thought I would have to reset it at some point in time. It has been a huge motivation for me knowing that you guys are watching the counter.  Also, knowing that even if you didn't catch me in the time allowed you would see that I punked.  That I didn't have the self control, not to eat sugar. Every time I would think of eating a goodie, I would think about reseting the clock.  I would wonder who was online, I would wonder if I would get caught, I would wonder who would catch me.  By the time I got through thinking about all of that I would decide the treat wasn't worth it. Another motivation has been my kids, who have said, "Mom you don't have to reset the counter no one would know."  I wanted them to see that  I could be honest and not do something I shouldn't ...
3 comments
Read more

Stepping Up to the Plate

This is going to be one of those braggy, braggy post just thought I would warn you. Life has gotten to the point that it is completely out of control. I’m not really sure what we were thinking when we had four children in the span of six years. I also don’t know why I thought it was difficult when they were small because life now is, as I said, completely out of control. Everyone is at the age that they are involved or doing something. Our nights have become logistic nightmares. Pick up here, drop off here, go here, and stop here. It is craziness. Added to this insanity is the fact that we are currently a one-vehicle family. A couple of months ago as I was signing Al. up for basketball I was desperately trying to talk H. out of playing basketball. He has only wanted to play since he was four and every year he would remind me how many more years until he could play. Why, oh Why did I not say he had to be 16? Eventually, I gave in and signed him up knowing it was going to be tough to fit...
2 comments
Read more